THE MOTHER MARY AND THE GREAT MOTHER GODDESS
IGNIGHTING INSIGHTS ON SISTERHOOD
By Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki ©
Today, 15th of August, is a day that in many countries the Koimisis (=dormition in greek) of the Mother Mary, is celebrated. A thread leading us back to the Great Mother Goddess, an archaic symbol that has survived through the ages by chameleonically changing forms, to reach our so very interesting times, that mark the initiating recuperation of the position She deserves in our hearts.
This year, combined with a big bright full moon, this celebration invites us to accept the fact that feelings previously kept in the dark, are being released. It is the celebration of a symbolic death, the death of our old selves and the promise of our newness. However, for this newness to be manifested, we need to make a concrete, intentional effort that doesn´ t only include our own personal matters, but also toxic patterns that have been passed on from generation to generation hindering the manifestation of our royal self and delaying our realisation.
I have been facilitating women´s circles since 2006. It is a task that has marked some years of deep, intense, challenging, grateful and fun teaching and learning. During that time, I have also experienced collaborations with different facilitators in the fields of art and spirituality and fused with different cultures, experiences that have reinforced a vision of a grounded idea of oneness in me, as applied in the so called experience of SISTERHOOD.
Let me clear out that in no manner am I excluding men from these reflexions. On the contrary, I believe, that great part of disfunctional and suffering men, are coming from women who haven´t managed to stand up for themselves; who have not been brave enough to honour their strength and value. Many women have dedicated their lives perfecting the art of manipulation, choosing the indirect and flattering way to open their way to the so called power and success. They have emotionally castrated their children just playing the game of the patriarchal system out of a need to feel good and integrated.
We are going through an important transition. Most of us come from parents who belong to generations that have spent their lives around material possessions, safety, security, comfort, success in terms of competition and accumulation of degrees and titles, social recognition and inhuman discipline. Then we moved to the other extreme: the generations that followed them have a completely reactive attitude towards the previous patterns that is manifested as procrastination, avoidance of tasks that involve responsibility towards ourselves and others, being too permissive, childish in the sense of confusing freedom with doing whatever one pleases, difficulty of self sustainment and so on and so forth.
Many -though not all- of the sisterhood communities and sacred circles that are being created are, to a great extend, influenced by this second model which for me is crystal clear that is not working. I honestly thank all those women who have reacted this way to the deeply oppressive patriarchal system; looks like a necessary and natural step to go from one extreme to the other before harmony is established, but I don´t embrace this perspective.
Therefore, in my humble opinion, it is absolutely essential and fundamental for us, if we want to take that step ahead, to learn how to mother ourselves. To really awaken that mother aspect in us, starting from ourselves.
And talking about women getting together to support each other in our journey to honouring the sacred in and around us, here are some insights and qualities that I reinforce in the circles I activate, and wish to share with you. This is today´s offering to the Great Mother Goddess.
Up until now, it has been considered having the same vision as others enough in order to immediately join, collaborate and create an action, project etc. However, in most cases I know, this is not enough. One thing is having a vision and a completely different thing is how you serve it; that´s where many discrepancies start and that´s why deep listening is important. The essential creation of the third party in an encounter of souls -that is the relationship- is not often created on the spur of the moment. That´s why collaborations and connexions that have started impulsively and even felt right at the beginning, most of the times, have a paradoxical ending or important frictions. How can you possibly claim to know the other, if you are still struggling in the deep waters of who YOU are? If you really respect yourself, if you really desire to meet your true fellow travellers, and if you really want to establish significant connexions that will give you fulfilment and spread kindness in the world, then learn to listen.
The sacred space that is created through deep listening is un-judgemental, contains no expectations and is not taking for granted that your opinion is necessary. That sacred space of listening is sacred because it can be healing in itself without you having to do absolutely anything. Just BE. It is a field of energy that evolves the participants making them feel safe, attended and at home.
So, if you want to enter that space of deep healing, put aside some expectations. You will really economise energy and time and permit the healing process to start even before you enter whatever circle or ask for a healer’s help (if you are brave enough, of course). Here are some attitudes that sabotage and some that reinforce sisterhood:
- Expecting to enter a circle where you will be the centre of attention by imposing your presence without respecting other´s right to share too.
- Expecting that others will assume the responsibility of your life and heart: the happy hippie new age mentality. Wounded children of 30, 40, 50 years old and more, still considering the family, society, men etc responsible for their “bad luck”.
- Confusing unconditional love with lack of boundaries. Saying NO when your gut feeling dictates, is an act of supreme love to yourself and others. You respect your soul´s boundaries and you offer others the respect and honesty to know you exactly as you are.
- Not being formal: Formality is a way of honouring the attention the others show to us by being punctual, responsive and efficient. By being present in our relations and collaborations not only when it comes to shining our talents, but also to doing boring work like paperwork (sending cvs, our workshop information etc.). That is also art and spirituality, the art of respect for all those who do the hard work of grounding the Vision that you also claim to be sharing.
- Over-idealisation of the vision. If you obsessively or naively stick to the vision, you will hardly be able to see it manifested and if you do, you will be too exhausted to enjoy the result.
- Do not expect to genuinely connect if you are still on survival mode. We all carry wounds. Give yourself time and honestly ask for help so that all the crust accumulated around your soul essence melts like metal under the pressure of the purifying fire; therefore, enter healing circles with humility.
- Honour your vulnerability. It is a gate to healing from patriarchal wound. Re-connect with your feelings and let them lead you to that point where pain becomes a purifying force that reignites the creative fire of your heart.
- Stop playing victim: the moment you blame others for your misfortune, it ´s a sign that you are still in that mode. Of course the acts of some people have hurt you, but if you concentrate on that, you give them power over you. No matter how hard this may be, use all the tools and power you can to shift your focus towards the energy that will uplift you to your royal essence.
- If you are a healer, priest, priestess etc, bare in mind that you also are a human being and you also need support, healing and love. We are not perfect (thank God and Goddess) and accepting that, can make us more compassionate towards ourselves and others. Look for help during turning points in your life. The universe is made of collaborative unities the same way as different groups of cells in our bodies perform different functions in unison.
- Speaking about Priestesses; calling yourself a priestess, just because you have put on some Cleopatra make up and a nice dress, doesn´t necessarily make you one. The archetype of the priestess is reviving in our times because it´s a medicine that brings together heaven and earth. It teaches us how to skilfully and naturally live between the two worlds, healing the wound that has been created by the polarity between patriarchy and reactive “emancipation”, described at the beginning of this article. One thing is our connection to the Priestess archetype as medicine and another issue is actually being an embodied Priestess.
- Show your physical support to those who need it, if you can, not only by just sending some prayers and blessings; they are welcome and effective but human touch and human presence are equally important.
- Support the strong spine of principles that your gut feeling/ soul dictates to you. This will function as a motor towards the vision of your full realisation. Support it with spiritual/creative practices that suit you, a good care of your body and a good community of fellow feelers, thinkers and doers.
- Beware of the pseudo-Gurus. One thing is to have teachers that inspire you towards your freedom and another that you become pray of whatever narcissist´s desire to gain followers, power and money.
My deepest wishes for gracefully moving towards a more substantial and mature Sisterhood
~ Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki
Today and every day, may each atom of your body dance to the rhythm of the spheres revealing the magnificence that you are to you and to all existence, and giving you the courage to BE the vastness of the untamed soul.
~Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki
Unless you reclaim your innocence and vulnerabiliy, you cannot meet freedom. Conscious innocence and vulnerability are keys to the vastness of existence…
~Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki
Some offer their masks through fire,
I offer them through water
The cleansing melting tears,
onto the earth
as they carry my masks
to the alchemical space
of gut knowledge
that is transported through the wind
to the high ethers
to the Mother´s womb
to be transformed into pure light.
~ Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki
THE FIERCE ASPECT OF THE DIVINE FEMININE
Unfortunately in very few cultures the Fierce Goddess archetype is still preserved, like Kali in India or Pele in Hawai,and that´s because the image of it reflects our deepest fears. However, that very cosmic aspect is a prerequisite for the soul´s individuation and a gate to a deeply benevolent quality of the Universe. It reflects our deepest fears and at the same time it is an invitation to face them and courageously cross that gate in order to find the treasure that lies behind ; and that treasure is Peace…Peace in us and peace in the world, because once you identify with the essence of the Fierce Feminine, you cannot do otherwise than face each and every illusion as veils that you wish to be removed in order to establish an honest and essential connection to your primal, pure, quintessential power;to stay naked in your truth and be not beautiful, but real…In that honesty is where beauty lies, a beauty that has been neglected for centuries because it does not fit with the convenient (for men and women) princess archetype that calls for a savior and ends up in a palace decorating a throne.
Fiercely Loving ❣
WHAT WAS SAID TO THE ROSE
What was said to the rose that made it open
was said to me here in my chest.
What was told to the cypress that made it strong
and straight , what was
whispered to the jasmine so it is what it is, whatever made
sugarcane sweet, whatever
was said to the inhabitants of the town of Chigil in
Turkestan that makes them
so handsome, whatever lets the pomegranate flower blush
Like a human face, that is
being said to me now. Whatever put eloquence in
language, that’s happening here.
The great warehouse doors open; I fill with gratitude,
Chewing a piece of sugarcane,
In love with the One to whomever that belongs!
Today, INTERNATIONAL WOMEN´S DAY I would like to make an offering.
I want to express my gratitude to all those WOMEN AND MEN who:
* Do not take for granted that they know women / men no matter how much experience they have had in relationships and in life.
* Know how to listen from their guts.
* Do not believe they can handle everything.
* Work on patience and tolerance with themselves and with others accepting that, after all, we all fail sometimes or rather many times.
* Do not try to be beautiful, handsome, cool but real.
* Are committed to respect and love themselves in order to become able to love another person in a respectful, natural and cheerful way.
* Whose goal is their own bliss and that of others.
* Accept the diverse nature of each being and learn to Be within such diversity.
* Leave space to the unknown every single day and consider each new day as an opportunity to learn what the great teacher (life) brings us.
* They have passion and vocation for their tasks and share from that perspective.
* Follow their call in this life despite the difficulties, the loneliness and the madness that this often entails.
* Know that their contribution in this world, no matter how small, is something that can influence its course and they channel their strength likewise; Imagine if these forces come together!
* Always keep alive that child curiosity for what will happen next in life.
* They know that love is not about romanticism but about full acceptance of what is in us and in others, they start from this firm base and then they fly, create and expand their gifts in the world.
* Laugh heartily and take life with a sense of humor.
* Do not separate between women, men, races, ethnic groups etc, and therefore, they do not relate to people; they relate to Souls ❤
~Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki
LOVE IS… YOU
Love is not something you search for.
Love is not something you wait for.
Love is not coming ‘one day’.
Love won’t ride in on horseback.
You can’t manipulate someone to get their love.
You can’t manipulate yourself either.
If you can win love, it’s not trustable.
If you can lose love, it’s not really love.
Love is here, neither found nor lost.
The more desperately you seek love
the more you communicate to the universe
that you are unworthy of it.
Your job is not to seek love, then,
but to be it,
know it as your essence,
feel it infuse your very being,
hear it drip from your in-breath,
and shimmer through your out-breath.
Call off the search. Love is You.
~ Jeff Foster
When soul pieces are being reintegrated during their journey back Home, the moment of reunion between each piece and the Soul is like an inward birth; it is painful at the beginning, but afterwards a sensation of peace and expansion is created, that lies in the experience of the Soul´s Integrity.
–Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki
ΤΗE MORE…-by Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki
The more I see, the less I tell
The more I hear, the less I speak
The more I touch, the less I think
The more I smell, the less I´m absent
The more I perceive, the less I comment
The more I love, the less I fear…
A WILD WOMAN – by Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki
A Wild Woman is not an agressive woman.The wilder she is, the nobler she is since the wisdom of the wild nature is the obedience to the Universal Laws. It is knowing how to respect her natural cycles as an essential reflexion of Nature. A Wild Woman doesn´t need to be agressive because, since she takes refuge in her deep feminine nature, she doesn´t see enemies. Not that she can´t detect the others´or her own innate oppressor´s sabotaging intentions; it´s just that she decides not to give them power knowing deep in her soul what really matters…
PRAYER FOR SOMEONE WHO CAUSED HARM
by Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki
Wish you peace at heart wish you peace at mind
Your frustration and fear let them no more guide.
Let them no more your life´s thread unfold
And within your cupped hands a flame hold.
The flame that will burn your fictitious prison
And will make your heart cry for barely no reason.
And will make the ice melt and turn into a river
That will lead you back Home and will soothe all your fever.
by Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki
I cannot contain what I feel for You
It expands and expands like the water of a river reaching its delta
And feeling awe before merging into the sea.
My breath is taken away, tears jump from my eyes
Dropping rhythmically into the vast ocean of gratitude
And expanding towards the endless horizon.
The rhythm becomes stronger and stronger
Goes up from de depths of the Timeless to my head
Buzzing like the chant of a sacred bee.
A melody evolves the rhythm
and together they uplift me to another land
where there´s no you and me
There´s no past, present and future
There is only FOREVER.
A STROKE OF INSIGHT
By Jill Bolte Taylor
THE WOLF´S EYLASH
by C.P. Estes
If you don’t go out in the woods, nothing will ever happen and your life will never begin.
“Don’t go out in the woods, don’t go out,” they said.
“Why not? Why should I not go out in the woods tonight?” she asked.
“A big wolf lives there who eats humans such as you. Don’t go out in the woods, don’t go out. We mean it.”
Naturally she went out. She went out in the woods anyway, and of course she met the wolf, just as they had warned her.
“See, we told you,” they crowed.
“This is my life, not a fairy tale, you dolts,” she said. “I have to go to the woods, and I have to meet the wolf, or else my life will never begin.”
But the wolf she encountered was in a trap, in a trap this wolf’s leg was in.
“Help me, oh help me! Aieeeee, aieeee, aieeee!” cried the wolf. “Help me, oh help me!” he cried, “and I shall reward you justly.” For this is the way of wolves in tales of this kind.
“How do I know you won’t harm me?” she asked–it was her job to ask questions. “How do I know you will not kill me and leave me lying in my bones?”
“Wrong question,” said this wolf. “You’ll just have to take my word for it.” And the wolf began to cry and wail once again and more.
“Oh, aieee! Aieeee! Aieeee!
There’s only one question
worthy asking fair maiden,
“Oh you wolf, I will take a chance. Alright, here!” And she sprang the trap and the wolf drew out its paw and this she bound with herbs and grasses.
“Ah, thank you kind maiden, thank you,” sighed the wolf. And because she had read too many of the wrong kind of tales, she cried, “Go ahead and kill me now, and let us get this over with.”
But no, this did not come to pass. Instead this wolf put his paw upon her arm.
“I’m a wolf from another time and place,” said he. And plucking a lash from his eye, he gave it to her and said, “Use this, and be wise. From now on you will know who is good and not so good; just look through my eyes and you will see clearly.
For letting me live,
I bid you live
in a manner as never before.
Remember, there’s only one question
worthy asking fair maiden,
And so she went back to her village,
happy to still have her life.
And this time as they said,
“Just stay here and be my bride,”
or “Do as I tell you,”
or “Say as I want you to say,
and remain as unwritten upon
as the day you came,”
she held up the wolf’s eyelash
and peered through
and saw their motives
as she had not seen them before.
And the next time
the butcher weighed the meat,
she looked through her wolf’s eyelash
and saw that he weighed his thumb too.
And she looked at her suitor
who said “I am so good for you,”
and she saw that her suitor
was so good for exactly nothing.
And in this way and more,
she was saved,
from not all,
but from many
But more so, in this new seeing, not only did she see the sly and cruel, she began to grow immense in heart, for she looked at each person and weighed them anew through this gift from the wolf she had rescued.
And she saw those who were truly kind
and went near to them,
and found her mate
and stayed all the days of her life,
she discerned the brave
and came close to them,
she apprehended the faithful
and joined with them,
she saw bewilderment under anger
and hastened to soothe it,
she saw love in the eyes of the shy
and reached out to them,
she saw suffering in the stiff-lipped
and courted their laughter,
she saw need in the man with no words
and spoke for him,
she saw faith deep in the woman,
who said she had none,
and rekindled hers from her own.
She saw all things
with her lash of wolf
all things true,
and all things false,
all things turning against life
and all things turning toward life,
all things seen only
through the eyes of that
which weighs the heart with heart,
and not with mind alone.
This is how she learned that it is true what they say, that the wolf is the wisest of all. If you listen closely, the wolf in its howling is always asking the most important question–not where is the next food, not where is the next fight, not where is the next dance?—
but the most important question
in order to see into and behind,
to weigh the value of all that lives,
Where is the soul?
Where is the soul?
Go out in the woods, go out. If you don’t go out in the woods, nothing will ever happen and your life will never begin.
Go out in the woods,
Go out in the woods,
Go out in the woods,
DURING RAINY DAYS
by Dhanmeet Eirini Delaki
During rainy days
I´m here less
LONELINESS AND ALONESS
There´s a big difference between being lonely and being alone. Feeling lonely is a state that can lead to non-creative melancholy, depression and furstration, whereas feeling alone can be an uplifting state during which one experiences such a meaningful silence that, that same silence speaks to them….and it speaks of the soul. In that aloness we actually have such an acute capacity to listen, that we are capable of connecting to that inherent guide in such a way that we´ll tend to look for that aloness again and again because we know that it is a door to the vastness of existence. Is it by chance that the word “alone” comes from the concept “All One”?
Below there are some reflexions on the subject by Rainer Maria Rilke:
“Therefore, dear Sir, love your solitude and try to sing out with the pain it causes you. For those who are near you are far away… and this shows that the space around you is beginning to grow vast.
Be happy about your growth, in which of course you can’t take anyone with you, and be gentle with those who stay behind; be confident and calm in front of them and don’t torment them with your doubts and don’t frighten them with your faith or joy, which they wouldn’t be able to comprehend.
Seek out some simple and true feeling of what you have in common with them, which doesn’t necessarily have to alter when you yourself change again and again; when you see them, love life in a form that is not your own and be indulgent toward those who are growing old, who are afraid of the aloneness that you trust.
And don’t expect any understanding; but believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.”
Letters to a Young Poet